Recently I have had a number of emails and messages sent to Me by slaves I have never met or communicated with before saying: “pls accept me as ur slave” or “i want to be your slave. I have cam. So you can dominate me live on skype or yahoo.”
Aside from the lazy grammar, My immediate question is: Would you approach a female you have never met or spoken with before and say to her… “I want to be your boyfriend!” Really… you need to get a life! The dynamics may be different but the approach is just the same as it would be in a vanilla setting!
Then the added expectation that I would be remotely interested in dominating you via webcam! For a start, I know nothing about you. Secondly, I am a Professional Mistress therefore My domination is NOT a free service and thirdly, your email is all about me, me, me. That in itself immediately puts Me right off you!
Which decent Domina would EVER consider a slave without getting to know them first?
Just because I am a Mistress, why do you think I would want you as My slave without Me knowing anything about you or vice versa? I am not a slave collector!
slaves in My realm have to prove their worthiness as such and their personalities and natural demeanor has to please Me. Just like a vanilla relationship, My slaves are people first and I need to know that I gel with My slave so that his servitude to Me will be meaningful, loyal and sincere and he needs to feel that I genuinely care for and get on with him. There would be nothing worse than a conflict of needs, expectations or personality between a Mistress and Her slave. Such a relationship is demanding enough without adding unnecessary conflict and stress due to a mismatch of personality and expectation.
slaves have diverse personalities just as Mistresses do, with varying concepts of what it means to be a slave (which may or may not coincide with the Mistress they have approached). slaves also have different commitments which may or may not impede their ability to fulfil certain roles and expectations the Mistress may have, or needs, at that time.
I certainly don’t decide that I need a slave and then grab the first one of hundreds who contact Me and take them on as a slave. My time and theirs is too precious to waste on a spur of the moment decision. slavery in My realm is a huge commitment and although many can superficially ‘talk the talk’, in reality they cannot ‘walk the walk’.
So next time you feel like sending a Mistress such a dumb email, sit back and ask yourself first: What do i really know about that Mistress and what does that Mistress know about me? your answer should be ‘nothing’ therefore, how can you expect a D & s relationship to grow from nothing?
A slave must be worthy of My time and attention and the only way to reach that stage is to get to know you over a period of time by serving Me. That gives U/us both a chance to work out if W/we are compatible for a longer term Mistress/slave relationship. And just like a vanilla relationship, you either click or you don’t!
Those who suffer from impatience and misguided assumptions, will find themselves floundering forever.