As a Pro Domme I enjoy the opportunities I have to help subs and slaves live out their fantasies in accordance with My repertoire. Every Mistress is different and We do not all do exactly the same thing and when We do, We have Our unique way of doing them. Our ‘sameness’ is that We have chosen to play for Our living on a professional, and not just lifestyle, basis.
Subs and slaves are also unique and have their own idiosyncrasies within their fetishes. Their ‘sameness’ is that they want to submit and give control to a Mistress. When this is given to a Professional Mistress, the exchange is no less real for that negotiated period of time their submission is given. Sensation, emotion and submission is intense and the fantasy becomes overwhelmingly real. The bond between Mistress and sub/slave will be very special and intimate. After all, the sub or slave is placing his or her entire trust in the Mistress. I for one, am always greatly honoured by this aspect of My ‘work’.
Now I come to the pitfall of the submissive fantasy.
Unfortunately, some subs and slaves begin to confuse their fantasy with reality. The love they initially feel for their Mistress on a professional basis, crosses the line to falling IN LOVE and desiring the ‘girlfriend’ experience. This places unnecessary pressure on the professional relationship and the D & s bond suffers negatively as a result.
Just because you are a sub or slave, does not automatically make you attractive to a Mistress. And if a Mistress is not even looking for a relationship outside of Her work, you are doomed right from the start by your thinking and will achieve nothing!
I speak for Myself from this point onwards.
I am a PROFESSIONAL Mistress and that means:
- serving Me can ONLY be done on a PROFESSIONAL basis.
- I already have a 24/7 slave and do not need or desire another.
- I am NOT looking for a personal RELATIONSHIP.
If you are seeking the ‘kinky girlfriend’ experience, sessions with Me will NOT fulfil that desire. Serving Me under that pretense will not be from an authentic need to submit and it will be a very rocky road. you are kidding yourself if you believe that all you need to do is “play the part” in terms of submission.
If you find that your feelings are stepping beyond the bounds of the professional basis upon which you are expected to serve Me, you must address that immediately by being honest with yourself and step away from the situation.
Falling ‘in love’ with your Professional Mistress can happen and does happen. It is human nature.
The most important lesson to learn from such an experience is to recognise the situation for what it is, and deal with it. Neither of U/us need, or deserve, the complication of your confusion.