The crux of submission is an intrepid journey for those subs and slaves who have a well balanced mindset with a healthy and sound self-esteem.
A sub or slave has to be in a good emotional place before they can even begin to experience the holistic benefit of fulfilling and rewarding submission.
Only a sub or slave can master their own mind, it is not the job of a Mistress to boost or fix this for them. The Mistress is not a crutch for their weaknesses, neediness, low self-esteem, and/or personal issues.
A sub or slave who fails to deal with their personal issues first is a distracted sub/slave which results in fragmented submission and is unhealthy for all concerned.
Building trust in a lasting D/s relationship begins with the foundation: the well being of mind, body and soul of both the Dom/me AND the submissive.
The long term quest of becoming and desiring to be a collared sub or slave is an outcome which can be aspired to, but it should NEVER become the SOLE FOCUS of submission.
Many subs and slaves dream of this reality and for many it will remain illusive. Why? Because it is earned through dedication and fundamentally sound submission and not from expectation. It cannot be forced or coerced. Nor is it a temporary fix for unfulfilled needs.
Collaring will happen naturally for the well deserved and it may take years for some to achieve such a privilege.