“If you have to ask, you can’t afford it!”
It seems that some subs, slaves, fetishists and kinksters do not understand what it means when a Mistress states She is a Professional Mistress (also known as a Professional Dominatrix or Pro-Domme). And the ‘pro’ is NOT an abbreviation for ‘prostitute’ and neither does it allude to prostitution!
I am essentially a Professional Mistress which means that if you wish to serve Me, there will be a fee for the privilege of My professional time irrespective of whether that is a real time session in My dungeon, a chat online, email training or any variation of these alternatives.
If I have a profile on a kink site, that does NOT change My status as a Professional Dominatrix which is always clearly spelt out (so don’t give Me the bullshit about not knowing I am a Pro-Domme). If you want to “chat”, “hook-up” or have some “kinky fun”, it will always involve a fee for My professional time no matter what idiosyncratic description you give it.
It is My prerogative to play at parties or public functions I attend and I only ever play with My collared slaves or My devoted serving sub and toy who have earned that privilege. If anyone else wishes to book My time at such an event, a fee will apply.
Let Me clarify by giving an example as My attendance at parties often causes the most conflict with subs expecting free ‘play’. Imagine you are at a party and you meet a Doctor who has been practising in the medical field for years. Yes, they are professional; no, your medical problem is not life threatening or dangerous. So what gives you more right than anyone else at that party to expect and demand a free medical consultation and diagnosis during their social time just because they happen to be a Doctor?
In that vein, do not foolishly try to quibble about My tribute or My expectations in requiring a fee for My professional time. If you do, you are in essence placing no value on My professional experience and highly developed skills in My craft, which in My case just happens to be domination and the broad parameters this entails.
If you want to seek assistance from a professional accountant, you have to pay for their time. If you want to pick the brains of a professional tennis coach to help you improve your game, you have to pay for their time. you want to benefit from My professional dominant experience either in My own private space or at a public function during My social time? Then you have to pay for My time. The setting is irrelevant and My time is no less valuable than ‘professionals’ in any other field.
Gratuitious exchange is not possible and no amount of flattery will induce a reversal of My policy.
If you don’t like the fact that you have to pay for My professional time, seek a lifestyle Mistress who may be more amenable to your request, only if you treat Her with the respect She also deserves.
As a professional, I still have a life outside of My ‘work’ and My private life is freely reserved for My family and close friends.